The Avoidance Project. “I will try again tomorrow” doesn’t work.

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This is my analysis of why I have selectively chosen to procrastinate a current project I could have started two weeks ago. During the course of posting commentaries this week, I became aware that I have not been able to move forward with one particular project although I know I am not only completely capable of completing the project, but I am also capable of doing a really good job.

The project is not boring. It is unique and exciting and I have a tremendous desire to jump in and concentrate all of my efforts to this project. I have a vision of how great it will be. I will work beyond hard…endless hours on the computer. I shall gather, collect, sort, share information, and apply what I learn. But then, there is a little voice that stops me from starting.

Could it be fear of failure? Could it be fear of success? Why would I be afraid of becoming successful? When I realized I was avoiding, I needed to develop the courage to get through these “avoidance” thoughts. First, I became aware. Second I analyzed the possible reasons I bothered to listen to the little voice. Third, I needed to do some research of why I was avoiding, so this is when all the mindset training I have been absorbing this past month clicked!

I’ve decided I’m not going to listen to the little voice anymore.  I will move forward. I will take action. I will a set a due date to complete this project, and I now have accountability to my friends. I now have courage but I don’t agree with this quote  “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” It should say, “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will start tomorrow.”

I will update my progress on my project called, “The Avoidance Project.”

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41 thoughts on “The Avoidance Project. “I will try again tomorrow” doesn’t work.

  1. Kevin DeRoo
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    Hey Raena,

    That’s great that you have decided that you are no longer going to listen to the “little voice” inside your head leading you to procrastinate for whatever the reasons.

    Setting goals, due dates, and becoming accountable by sharing your project with family and friends is definitely a huge move in the right direction.

    Just take out that word “try” and nothing can stop you!

    Thanks for sharing Raena

    Kevin

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Kevin,
      I appreciate your visit today. You are right. The word “try” prevents movement. Thank you for pointing that out.

  2. Raena

    Thats strange we normally avoid things that we can’t tackle and complete successfully and thus we really never move forward.

    But that’s great that you identified that you were avoiding it instead of continuing to rationalize that you weren’t. Whatever the hang up you know what you have to do to get over it now and I’m sure you will.

    Steve

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Steve,

      Thanks for the connection Steve. I really enjoyed talking to you yesterday. You helped me out a lot in one day…wow!

      I know this is a weird hang up and it is strange, isn’t it? I think it’s the fear of success thing more because I know I can do it and I know that I’m capable. I want you to know that because I made myself accountable…I started my project today! Maybe all I needed was a self inflicted nudge!

  3. Well here’s something else for you to consider – maybe you are an “incubator” rather than a “procrastinator.” Some people do their best work when faced with pressure, such as a deadline. There really is a difference between the two styles – the procrastinator puts things off and sometimes never gets around to them, or ends up doing a so-so job. The incubator tends to do his/her best work under pressure and will always complete the task at hand. Which ever it is, enjoy the process!

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Marquita,
      Talk about a boost in self-esteem! Thanks! I think you are right because yesterday I finally started the project and I diligently stuck with it to completion. It took about 3 hours but it’s done! Wow, I could have completed it a few weeks ago. After your explanation of being an “incubator,” I think your theory is correct. After I posted “The Avoidance Project.” It created enough pressure to start. One reason I avoid is a fear of knowing that once I start, it is difficult to stop although I know it is a good idea to break up a big project into baby steps. Pacing myself is the problem, but I learned a great lesson from you. Thanks. I’m proud to be an incubator.

    2. Wow, I really like Marquita’s take on it! Not because I’m looking for an excuse, but because it really resonates with me.

      For years I’ve felt guilty because I “leave things till the last minute”… because that’s how others generally put it. At the same time, I know I do work best under pressure of a deadline.

      Marquita didn’t say it in so many words, but the picture it brings to my mind is that a project or assignment “incubates” or “simmers” in the back of my mind for however long until the last minute. Then, and only then, it all falls together and the words come pouring out just in the nick of time.

      Willena Flewelling

      1. Raena Lynn
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        Hi Willena,

        I totally agree. It makes you feel so much better, doesn’t it? It almost sounds like we are geniuses! The thoughts slowly evolve and develop and “simmer” as you said, then BAM! Ta Da! grin

        Raena Lynn

  4. Hi Raena
    Procrastination…its a killer isn’t it.
    Been reading a book this week called First Things First by Stephen Covey.
    It is interesting to see that we may be doing things that might appear urgent but are definitely no important.

    Working on what is important, like planning to achieve our goals, means that we can work steadily towards something rather than being reactive and getting distracted.

    Great post….

    Best wishes

    Peter

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Peter,
      Thanks for visiting. I will check out the book you are recommending. It sounds like a good read. As we progress it’s a comfort when the unimportant tasks are understood to be unimportant:). I love your Fan Page!
      Raena Lynn

  5. Andy Nathan
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    I woke up this morning, because I realized there were a number of projects that I needed to complete. Including my TSA activity!

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Andy,
      Thanks for stopping by. Are you saying you are avoiding????? Go out and get that TSA activity done!

  6. Raena,

    We like the way you’ve changed the quote. Only by actually doing something, taking action, do we move forward. It is impossible to “try” to do something. We can only do it, or not. By changing that word to “start” it says you are going to step into action and do it.

    Thanks,
    ~ Pat and Lorna
    http://TheCoolestCouple.com

  7. Allegra Sinclair says:

    Hi Raena,
    This is good stuff. Don’t you think that just asking the questions changed your energy and fear level even before you actually starting doing the work? I don’t think we get the same energy boost if others ask us why we haven’t done something, to me that just feels like nagging and I get defensive. I think it’s definitely an inside job. And I love how you changed the quote from ‘trying’ tomorrow to ‘starting’ tomorrow. Can’t wait to hear how it goes. Have a POWERFUL week! Allegra

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Allegra,

      Welcome back! You are so right! I like the way you worded it as “definitely and inside job.” The day after I posted this article, I started, and nailed the project. It took 3 hours but it’s done….strange how accountability works.

  8. CJ priestley says:

    I immediately could relate especially when I say the word procrastinate. I often find myself not as productive as a i should be when I have the time and am available to and my mind is often blank in some regards. But when I am actually working doing something I don’t have a choice or in fact hate doing I usually find my mind else where, whether it be an idea for a future blog post, some tactic that might yield some great results but is untested or an article etc. I cant quite seem to understand I have these ideas at the most inopportune time, and why the thinking and motivation is reversed.

    In entrepreneurship and of course life there are hurdles and obstacles that we all should push through but for some reason don’t its as if we are comfortable in our current situation but yet still unhappy with and know what will happen if we stay in that zone, but those hurdles should prove to be worth while when that life we want, desire and crave all falls into place in due time.

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi CJ,
      Thanks for stopping by. I believed my avoidance was procrastination until Marquita made a mention that it is not necessarily a matter of procrastination, but incubation. That sounds so much better!

      Your quote of “those hurdles should prove to be worth while when that life we want, desire and crave all falls into place in due time.” The words of a true entrepreneur! Thank you.
      Raena Lynn

  9. Hey Raena,

    Great message. There have been times where this has happened in my life and I know that it will most likely come around again sometime. What I have done is like you mention, make the decision to just DO IT! One of my mentors says… “You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going.” Blessings for your great success in your project and all that you do in your life. Keep your dreams alive.

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,
    The GREAT Edward!

  10. Ross Joyner says:

    Raena, You are correct true procrastination is a killer. Some people live there entire lifes that way,never to find there way out of that jungle. I am glad that you are not going to listen to that little voice to continue to put things off and just (Larry the cable guy) says just git-r-done. 🙂

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Ross,
      Glad to see you traveling through again! LOL Git-r-done! I Got-r-done!

  11. Paul Reimers
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    Thanks for sharing your experience in this post Raena,

    I have been there myself many times, looking at a project that I am excited to start and with no real reason why not to start immediately and with passion and then…it just doesn’t take off.

    I think it’s important that you shared that it’s a little voice that has held you back in this instance and that the courage to move through it doesn’t have to be big and dramatic. It can be a little voice as well.

    Often it’s the little things whether for better or worse that add up to our lives. It can be easy to miss this and instead focus on drama. The real power and the seeds of change are either small or at least start small.

    Thanks for pointing out the importance of the little things 🙂

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Paul,

      Thanks for coming by. I want to compliment you on your blog. I stopped by this week and I am very impressed with your content. Anyway, as I read your post, it makes me chuckle a little because “a little voice” sounds a little nutty:) but you make a valid point. (I’m the one that brought up the “little voice” in the original post.) “Often it’s the little things whether for better or worse that add up to our lives. It can be easy to miss this and instead focus on drama. The real power and the seeds of change are either small or at least start small.” This is very insightful! So many people focus on the drama, and miss the “seeds” of change.

      Remember when none of us had a blog? Or we didn’t know what it was? Or we had no clue what a dashboard was? We start out with an empty frame structure, and little by little, we add and build until at some point it evolves to a rich dynamic project! Happy days!

      Raena Lynn

  12. TK Goforth says:

    Raena Lynn, thank you for this post! I have been thinking the same thing, and now don’t feel alone! Ha! Thanks for the reminder to forge through, and sometimes, yes, it is fear of failure, but even more often maybe fear of success…like we don’t deserve it. Looking forward to your updates on this!

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Tammy,
      Thanks for coming back. I have a feeling there is a lot of us out there but we shall forge through. I’ m glad I helped you feel you’ve got company! I finished the project and I’ve moved on to the next. I learned a valuable lesson by sharing my “avoidance” experience. There was no avoiding this time. I checked out your blog and it looks really great with your new Word Press Theme…you are rocking! To your continued success!

  13. Great post, Raena! I’m glad to hear that you are taking action. I’ve noticed that that determination has a very high yield, and I congratulate you for making that decision and look forward to hearing how it works for you.

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Thanks Steve,

      Taking action and determination is the key! As posted earlier, I completed the project the day after I published this article.

      I appreciate you letting me know about that possible glitch. That was very kind of you. It’s all good, but I wouldn’t have known. It’s almost like someone having the courage to tell you that you have broccoli in your teeth, otherwise you can walk around all day not knowing. It’s a real bummer to discover it on your own. Don’t you hate it when that happens?

  14. PearlyPQ says:

    Hi Raena,

    It is great to visit your blog today to learn one more thing about you. What an excellent example of you describing the avoidance project !

    You have demonstrated your ability to identify your needs and wants and I say this is self awareness. This is something to show that you have prioritized what need to be done and when you need to complete it because you know why you want to do it. So, congratulations because you are quick to identify your priority 🙂 Well done, Raena.

    I am impressed with your positive attitude. Thanks for sharing this awesome post 🙂

    Cheers
    Pearly

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Pearly,
      Thanks for stopping by. I appreciate you kind comments. You are in my group this week! I’m excited about seeing what you’ve been up to. See you soon!
      Raena Lynn

  15. Those voices can really mess with you.I have had them tell me I might as well quit because I will never be that good. It is easy to listen but so much more brave to plow ahead.Having good partners and mentors has alwasy helped me.I also read good books on personal growth that I go back to when needed.You can do anything you really put your effort into.Thanks for sharing Raena Lynn.

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Welcome Beverly,
      Thanks for stopping by. I visited your blog for the first time yesterday. It is awesome. I really liked your video on spamming. That is a big issue for all of us!
      I agree that personal growth books help a lot and a great coach is essential:)

      Raena Lynn

  16. Hi Raena,

    I have had to deal with procrastination many times myself, it seems we sometimes want to go with that path of least resistence.

    Not sure why.

    Maybe as you say, it could be fear of failure or, it could be fear of success?

    We humans are a complex being, after all, why should or would for that matter, we be afraid of success?

    The key is to take action, action is the killer of procrastination.

    Cheers,

    Willie Robertson

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Willie,
      You said the magic word. Take action! That is what I did and the project is complete! Thanks for stopping by,
      Raena Lynn

  17. I totally agree. Procrastination can be the downfall to us all. I know several people in my family who have procrastination problems. You need to identify what jobs need to be done and by when for each item.

    Thanks

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Charles,

      Thanks for visiting. Your comments are powerful. “The only person I have to truly impress is myself.”
      I noticed on my smart phone that your avatar is a QR icon. Share???

      Raena Lynn

  18. Marc Korn says:

    Hi Raena,

    Thanks for sharing this inspiring post and great message.

    I don’t think any of us have escaped falling into this trap from time to time.

    I think that when you actually made the “decision” to move from “I will try” to “I will do” is when you overcame the biggest obstacle.

    Sometimes, we may have to set a timeline to prompt ourselves to action. Our decisions shape our lives. Whether we have great success or run into challenges, it comes from the decisions we make and the actions we take.

    Congrats on taking your game to the next level and leaping over your hurdle. I look forward to your project update.

    Keep up the GREAT work,
    Marc

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Marc,

      Thanks for visiting my blog. I feel honored that you have stopped by:) I appreciate your dedication and hard work for all of us. You help so many people because you take the time and effort to support all of us.

      As an update, I am pleased to say that “the avoidance project” has transformed to “the completed project.” Everyone’s suggestions, insight, and support made a great difference in it’s fruition. It shows how important “synergy” is to fulfill each others success. See you again later.

      Raena Lynn

  19. I really related to this post. I recently wrote an ebook that took much longer than it should have because of all the procrastinating. That surprised me a little because I have been writing articles and newsletters for over 12 years. I could feel the myself resisting. I think that comes from both fear of failure and fear of success.

    The funny part is, the book is on EFT for Network Marketers. I should have done some EFT right away but I procrastinated that too. 😉

    Well, I finally did the EFT and got the book published. I guess we all have areas we need to face the fear.

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Melodie,
      Thanks for stopping by. I chuckled a little after reading your post, not because of your notes about procrastination, but the fact you mentioned EFT. I came across EFT about 4 times today as I was cruising around the net. I learned today what it meant because until today, I’ve never heard of it before. I now know that it stands for Emotional Freedom Technique.
      I’m lined up to create an ebook so I better get going! Thanks for your visit.

      Raena Lynn

  20. Hi Raena:

    I struggle big time with procrastination. My new saying is “Today is the day for action!”

    Kevin

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Kevin,

      I think a lot of people struggle with procrastination. The key is “action!”

      Raena Lynn

  21. Congratulations for finding the forumla to help you beat procrastination and move forward with your project!

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