Three Secrets of Personal Growth-My favorite Posts May 11-17, 2011

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This is my response to a post by Ylva Jansson, a gold member of TSA and number 1 commentator this week! Her blog is http://ylvajannson.com and the post was titled 3 Secrets of Personal Growth.

Hi Ylva,

Thank you for this article on 3 Secrets of Personal Growth. The 3 that you discussed are 1) Know What’s Important to You (values) 2) Know Your Weaknesses (But No Hiding Behind Them!) and 3) Always Strive For Balance. I would like to address your statement, “It is important to have an intimate awareness of your own personal values. Get to the core of what truly motivates you, excites you and inspires you.”

Understanding what your values are and recognizing weather you are aligned with your values in life is extremely important to how you view your life. For example, one of my highest values in life is my family. However, as life progresses, life changes and it is vital that we stop and analyze our values and make sure we have updated our thoughts of our values and reality. I’m moving into the “empty nest” situation since my youngest daughter will be leaving for college. While we have been moving in that direction, I didn’t realize I was gradually feeling sad because my interpretation of my family was “I have a sense of joy of family when we are together.” In reality, we are not together anymore because we are experiencing the natural order of what happens in a family, when the children are moving on and establishing their own lives.

I had to stop and update what “family” means to me now as the physical structure has changed. If we are unable to be together a majority of the time, I can perceive that as very sad. After I gave it thought and updated, my sense of family changed. So instead of my sense of joy of family coming from us being together, it is now 1) When I am talking to my daughter who is in college on the telephone. 2) When I send gifts to any member of my family 3) When I get a txt message from my 17 year old or 22 year old daughter 4) Whenever we are together during holidays or special occasions 5) When I receive any gift either verbal or tangible from any family member 6) Sharing on Facebook with any family member 7) Any communication whatsoever besides those listed with any family member counts!

In summary, it is important to recognize your values, and update them every 6 months or so. Now if I need some personal family bonding and I think of family, I don’t feel sad. I feel invigorated and joyful because all I have to do is use any of the updates I listed. I can make a phone call, or txt an “I love you” and I get instant inspiration and joy because I can capture my updated sense of family.

Thank you for your thought provoking article!

Raena Lynn

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16 thoughts on “Three Secrets of Personal Growth-My favorite Posts May 11-17, 2011

  1. Raena,

    I totally agree with you here. I think if we are not analyzing this we are missing the whole point. Basically in a way living a lie to be honest. If we are not motivated out of very core values what is driving us? It can’t be real at least not for us. Very thought provoking post yourself.

    Steve

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Steve,
      Welcome back! Yes I agree that if we are not motivated out of very core values what is driving us? Great point. Thanks for all of your support. You are awesome Steve!

      Raena Lynn

  2. Maggie Lancy says:

    Excellent post and response.

    It is all how you react and it also depends on your perspective.

    How are you looking at the glass, half empty or half full.

    Thanks for sharing.

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Maggie,

      You are in my group this week! Welcome. I like to view life as a glass half full. How about you?

      Raena Lynn

      1. Maggie Lancy says:

        You bet Raena. That is the key to my success!

  3. Adrienne says:

    Hi Raena,

    I will definitely agree that those are very important in order to continue to grow.

    Since a very young age I’ve always had certain values and morals and to be honest with you, I don’t think those really change too much. At least they haven’t for me. Maybe more have been added on but not changed.

    As I get older I’m able see what my weaknesses are and actually start doing something about them. This has been a wonderful move in the right direction for me.

    Striving for balance, huh!!! Guess I never really gave that much thought, at least not addressed that way. I don’t have a family to worry about, just me so maybe that’s why that has gone by the wayside so to speak.

    Enjoyed reading your post though, I like hearing what others are involved in and what direction they are headed and some of the lessons they’ve learned. Great for you to share this with us.

    Hope you are enjoying your day.

    Adrienne

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Adriane,
      Thank you for your comments. It is great that you have recognize your weaknesses and you are starting to do something. Treat it as a journey and have fun! I wish you prosperous success in your endeavors! I appreciate that you enjoyed reading my post! Come back again!

      Raena Lynn

  4. Thanks for this very interesting article Raena. While my own goals and values haven’t changed much over the past couple of years – people around me have gone through life changes and that does affect me. We don’t live in a vaccuum so I agree that it can never hurt to stop from time to time and evaluate where we are in terms of what’s most important.

  5. Andy Nathan
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    It is amazing how life changes, and how many people get stuck behind. Without re-evaluating life a little each time their is change you will never be able to fully move forward. I believe that is why so many people get grumpy as they get older. They never re-evaluated the better part of life.

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Andy,

      Keep moving forward is the only way people can reach their goals. You obviously have conquered any “stuckness” and I’ll bet you regulary analyze your progress and that is the reason you are living the better part of life!

      Raena Lynn

  6. Marc Korn says:

    Hi Raena,

    Thanks for sharing your insights and for you own personal interpretation of Ylva’s great post and how it has impacted you…

    Personal Growth is about identifying areas of your life that you would like to change for the better. You must have an attitude of continual self-improvement. No matter which area of your life you are determined to improve, if you have a plan in place and take ACTION, you can overcome that “temporary” obstacle.

    One good way to do that is to step back and re-evaluate what is going on in your life periodically. You family situation made you feel sad, so you corrected your course and made improvements and continued to move forward…good for you!!

    To your continued growth,
    Marc

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Marc,
      Thanks for your encouragement. I really believe my time is now for personal growth, although I it seems that I, along with many of us are always seeking personal growth. However, the difference from my past experiences is this time I am privy to top notch mentors and programs. It really does make a difference than trying to move forward.

      Stepping back to re-evalute what is going on periodically is important. I agree with you completely. It has made a difference for me. I am enrolled in a 90 day challenge and it has proven in just two weeks to be worth its weight in gold! I have a set of values that help me daily to stay on track and keep my priorities in check.

      You are right; every obstacle is temporary if you take ACTION! It seems like such a simple concept, but there are so many people who do not understand the concept and will continue to repeat the same behaviors which doesn’t grow at all. It causes either reversing or stagnation.

      I’m honored and proud to be in your group.
      Raena Lynn

  7. Hello Raena

    Balance in life is critical for proper growth. When personal values are not in alignment one will experience extra wear in life. Updating values is like having your automobile front end aligned. Sharing your personal story helps to see how all this really works in real life.

    Thanks

    Perry A Davis Jr
    Music City

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Perry,

      Aligning your true values to your life is vital to happiness, health, and wealth. It its something I always thought I had an accurate understanding. The truth is, I’ve been out of alignment for a while. Since that post, which was written in May, 2011. Recently, I had the opportunity to dig deeper and identified my top ten life values because I participated in a program called The Ultimate Game of Life (TUG) 90 Day challenge. Towards the end of the program we were given this opportunity and now that it is completed, the most important thing is that it is discovered and corrected:) Thanks Perry

      Raena Lynn

  8. Now you have really made me think! Because I am geographically apart from my family I was thinking along the same lines as you were, although mine is not empty nest.

    Your post made me stop and think about how technology has actually enabled me to become even closer to my family than ever.
    I skype with both my parents often
    My niece on Facebook keeps me in the know on her family’s fun
    My older sister is always emailing me pictures of her granddaughters.
    My younger sister (the busiest one) shares all the family activities on a Google calendar.

    I remember the first year my parents were using Skype while they wintered in Arizona, I spoke with them almost daily. I hadn’t felt that close to them in years.

    1. Raena Lynn
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      Hi Carla,

      Thanks for visiting my blog. I too am so grateful for technology because it is an alternative way to communicate with my family. It looks like you have a healthy and happy family situation and you have used the gift of technology to stay close to your family. Social Media has a way of doing that and I really believe family values have nurtured it’s growth and popularity. Also, it is important to do an overall review of how communication is going with everyone once in a while. Thanks!

      Raena Lynn

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