Thank you for this article on 3 Secrets of Personal Growth. The 3 that you discussed are 1) Know What’s Important to You (values) 2) Know Your Weaknesses (But No Hiding Behind Them!) and 3) Always Strive For Balance. I would like to address your statement, “It is important to have an intimate awareness of your own personal values. Get to the core of what truly motivates you, excites you and inspires you.”
Understanding what your values are and recognizing weather you are aligned with your values in life is extremely important to how you view your life. For example, one of my highest values in life is my family. However, as life progresses, life changes and it is vital that we stop and analyze our values and make sure we have updated our thoughts of our values and reality. I’m moving into the “empty nest” situation since my youngest daughter will be leaving for college. While we have been moving in that direction, I didn’t realize I was gradually feeling sad because my interpretation of my family was “I have a sense of joy of family when we are together.” In reality, we are not together anymore because we are experiencing the natural order of what happens in a family, when the children are moving on and establishing their own lives.
I had to stop and update what “family” means to me now as the physical structure has changed. If we are unable to be together a majority of the time, I can perceive that as very sad. After I gave it thought and updated, my sense of family changed. So instead of my sense of joy of family coming from us being together, it is now 1) When I am talking to my daughter who is in college on the telephone. 2) When I send gifts to any member of my family 3) When I get a txt message from my 17 year old or 22 year old daughter 4) Whenever we are together during holidays or special occasions 5) When I receive any gift either verbal or tangible from any family member 6) Sharing on Facebook with any family member 7) Any communication whatsoever besides those listed with any family member counts!
In summary, it is important to recognize your values, and update them every 6 months or so. Now if I need some personal family bonding and I think of family, I don’t feel sad. I feel invigorated and joyful because all I have to do is use any of the updates I listed. I can make a phone call, or txt an “I love you” and I get instant inspiration and joy because I can capture my updated sense of family.
Thank you for your thought provoking article!